New Moon: My friendships are a reflection of my relationship to myself
The Spice Girls once said, “If you want to be my lover, you gotta get with my friends.” There’s something about the five iconic British women who screamed “Girl power! And positivity!” to the world in the nineties that makes me think of Aquarius. How different personalities can cohesively join together to make something bigger than themselves and bring a collective in union by demanding, “Spice up your life!”
This New Moon in Aquarius is a reflection on our vision, hope, and progress for a girl power and positivity fuelled future while we get clear on how our collaborative efforts and friendships will help us take a stand for that vision right now. “Friendship” is quite the complex system, isn’t it? Unlike family, professional, and romantic/intimate systems of relating, where we can sometimes feel bound to them because of compliance and contract, friendship has very little, if any, of that. I find the closeness between friends and the motivation behind why people choose to call each other “friend” a fascinating inquiry.
Speaking of vision and friendship, Aquarius of course has much to instruct us on related to the energy of close platonic ties. I once heard North Node in Aquarius Marianne Williamson say, “If you want to transform the quality of your relationships, make your friendships more romantic, and your romances more friendly.” And when I heard it, I thought I heard the church bells go off because I knew Marianne just bottom-lined the DNA of Aquarius and their exceptional relational skills in one sentence. If you to bring a new vision to your friendships and to yourself this New Moon in Aquarius, make your friendships more romantic and your romances more friendly. In other words, bring the friendship ethic of kindness, appropriate expectations, levity, and curiosity to the high stakes ecosystem of romantic relationships. And bring the appreciation, depth, care, and affection that is theoretically present in romantic relationships to your friendships. In that way, you’re learning how to be intimate in non intimate relationships and skill-building your character for intimacy in intimate ones. That’s what high-minded Aquairus energy does so well in that they treat most, if not all, with an impeccable manner of interaction. Nobody’s more or less special than anyone. So Aquarius in its most glorious sense treats everyone with the golden rule and that’s why they’re never at a shortage for friends. They never meet a stranger.
The highlight of this New Moon in Aquarius is its close conjunction with ties that bind Saturn in Aquarius. Reflect critically on what makes you feel valued and who you value in your friendship circle. Consider how you can bring more romanticism to friendships by simply being a person who makes others feel like they’re the most interesting person in the room. Perhaps you can graciously let go of friendships that aren’t compatible with the person you’re becoming and have faith that in the space you’ve cleared the Universe will bring you the friendships you deserve. Saturn wants both responsibility and accountability in order to create foundation for the most meaningful friendships. May that be yours. And remember, spice up your f%king life!
Friendship, Activism, Collaborations & Shared Humanity
Are you giving what you’re hoping to receive, Aries? The New Moon in Aquarius asks for a thoughtful balance between receiving care, affection, and attention in friendships and giving it away. Perhaps you have to gently call a friend in and get clear on your expectations for friendships so they can know how to get along even better with you. You deserve the most supportive community.
Career, Leadership, Integrity & Discipline
It takes a village, Taurus. The New Moon in Aquarius helps you see which people are invested in your highest level of professional outcomes. Your competence and skills have been proven. Now you’re being asked to increase your relational intelligence and relationship quality on/around your workplace so that you can receive support and give it away to your colleagues.
Wisdom, Publishing, Discovery & Higher Education
Bon voyage, Gemini! The New Moon in Aquarius is taking you to a new country, campus, or space that helps you have as many “Ah-ha!” moments as possible. You’ll be a student of another culture or academic setting to help you bridge the space between your knowledge gap. Don’t be afraid to ask other people questions and have them help you across that bridge.
Intimacy, Empathy, Sexuality & Transformation
Get comfortable with discomfort, Cancer! The New Moon in Aquarius helps you level up your grit and perseverance in tricky places that might bring up shame, fear, and other emotions we’d rather not deal with head on. You have all that it takes to move towards what you’re afraid of and you’ll be rewarded significantly by how much tenacity you have in the unknown.
Romance, Boundaries, Partnerships & Trust
Opposites do attract, Leo! The New Moon in Aquarius helps you understand the value of a differing, competing, and oppositional energy in your life. Yes it’s annoying because you’d rather rule the kingdom but this New Moon helps you incorporate a legitimacy with your liability. A proclivity of theirs that complements a vulnerability of yours. Stay humble and adaptable!
Habits, Systems, Wellbeing & Routine
Start small, Virgo! The New Moon in Aquarius encourages you to commit to the habit you want by starting small. Don’t bite off more than you can chew! Whether its mindfulness, something more physical, spiritual or anywhere in between, take the first small step and watch in amazement how the Universe will help you habit-stack and compound those behaviors in divine time.
Self-Disclosure, Charisma, Creativity & Lovability
Courage thy name is Libra! The New Moon in Aquarius wants you to express an emotion, desire, hope, fear, and/or longing to a listener who genuinely needs to hear it. Yes it’ll be vulnerable and a bit scary; but if you want to play, you gotta pay. And if you wanna play in big ways, you can’t escape the feelings you feel in the face of risk, uncertainty, and emotional exposure.
Vulnerability, Home, Family & Emotional Agility
Happy homecoming, Scorpio! The New Moon in Aquarius reconnects you to the people and places that keep your heart safe. You’ll be thinking about emotional safety more carefully and how you’ll need to express the feeling with detail and accuracy in order to feel at home within yourself. May you find the home you’re looking for and the people who feel like family!
Curiosity, Observation, Dialogue & Active Listening
Put the “commune” in communication, Sagittarius! The New Moon in Aquarius wants you to regulate any parallel monologues in communication that sound like, “I talk. You talk.” Instead, interface the communication with dialogue, open-ended questions, and a conversation that makes another person feel like they’re the most interesting person. You’ll skill build your communication habits and feel good in the process!
Finances, Security, Clarity of Values & Pleasure
What is “Security” in times like this, Capricorn? The New Moon in Aquarius wants you to ground down, even while the ground is moving, by actively clarifying and committing to your values. Think of 2 words that help guide righteous living. Then, situate the behavior that helps you live into those values. There’s no security like knowing you’re exactly who you say you are and your life proves it.
Identity, Desire, Autonomy, & Freedom
Happy Solar Return, Aquarius! This New Moon wants all your birthday wishes. Be specific, fearless, and courageous in owning the wanting for all you declare in the new year. Then, listen very carefully for the direction you receive in sight, image, sound, and feeling. Let the Universe speak through your intuition so that you might manifest all you dream of in the months ahead.
Completion, Surrender, Healing & Spiritual Support
It’s time to let go, Pisces. The New Moon in Aquarius wants your humble intentions for surrendering all the habits, behaviors, and thinking-traps that prevent you from becoming the highest and brightest version of yourself. Offer personal and relational forgiveness and apology as a miraculous two-fold approach that gives you the cosmic companionship to begin again.